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Slash & My Mom - Round Two
Here's round two...
She loves my writing - but then she comes into my room and says I shouldn't use words like "cock" and "spunk" - that it belittles the eroticism of the scenes.
Sighhhh....
Then she said that I go into too much detail about body positioning...sigh.
I tried to tell her that her thought on the use of the word "cock" were her own opinion - that it's a personal reaction and a generational thing too. She equates the word with being vulgar and a slap in the face to men and the readers - like it's the male version of "cunt." See - offensive....
I told her that that's not how all others see it. That since I'm writing about sex between two gay men - the use of cock is appropriate. That it is meant to be erotic - hot - etc. Naughty in a good way.
I asked well, come on - it's hard enough to write sex between two men and get all the "his" "he", etc - straight - meaning who's doing what to whom. Now try adding in telling whose penis is whose.... It's a mind field. How many times can you reference it with cock, dick, hardon, sex, etc... And not be a broken record?
Course then she told me dick and hardon aren't good either.
Awwwww....
As for the details I go into... Damn it - I'm trying to do that. It's to help with the visuals. I want the reader to experience it with them.
Ok - so I told her we just disagree. But she needs to view it from how I intended it, not necessarily how she personally reacts. Does that make any sense?
She's reading the second chapter to "Not Letting Go" btw - the opening bathtub scene between Stuart/Vince.
So - she loves my writing and the story - thinks it holds value - but that one thing seems to have caught her focus...sigh.
It has me thinking.... What are your own opinions about the sex scenes we read in slash? Are they realistically done? Do you think gay men see them as realistic? Have you ever asked? lol....
I just... I don't know. I'm glad we're having discussions about this. I'm glad she likes the writing. But these convo's are also frustrating....
xof
She loves my writing - but then she comes into my room and says I shouldn't use words like "cock" and "spunk" - that it belittles the eroticism of the scenes.
Sighhhh....
Then she said that I go into too much detail about body positioning...sigh.
I tried to tell her that her thought on the use of the word "cock" were her own opinion - that it's a personal reaction and a generational thing too. She equates the word with being vulgar and a slap in the face to men and the readers - like it's the male version of "cunt." See - offensive....
I told her that that's not how all others see it. That since I'm writing about sex between two gay men - the use of cock is appropriate. That it is meant to be erotic - hot - etc. Naughty in a good way.
I asked well, come on - it's hard enough to write sex between two men and get all the "his" "he", etc - straight - meaning who's doing what to whom. Now try adding in telling whose penis is whose.... It's a mind field. How many times can you reference it with cock, dick, hardon, sex, etc... And not be a broken record?
Course then she told me dick and hardon aren't good either.
Awwwww....
As for the details I go into... Damn it - I'm trying to do that. It's to help with the visuals. I want the reader to experience it with them.
Ok - so I told her we just disagree. But she needs to view it from how I intended it, not necessarily how she personally reacts. Does that make any sense?
She's reading the second chapter to "Not Letting Go" btw - the opening bathtub scene between Stuart/Vince.
So - she loves my writing and the story - thinks it holds value - but that one thing seems to have caught her focus...sigh.
It has me thinking.... What are your own opinions about the sex scenes we read in slash? Are they realistically done? Do you think gay men see them as realistic? Have you ever asked? lol....
I just... I don't know. I'm glad we're having discussions about this. I'm glad she likes the writing. But these convo's are also frustrating....
xof
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I could never let my mom read anything I wrote.... Mainly because even when your in the same room as her and you utter the word 'sex' she point and says "Shhhh!!". Hehe, but I think thats just coz Im her daughter... she doesn't do that to any of my friends.
Ohhh and I've shown my gay friends some of your QAF ficcies, along with some of Margo's... and I shall add that he says they are "Very hot and sexy and definately worth reading". But next time I talk to him I shall ask him if he thinks they are realistic or not. Thats a good question.
In my opinions for slashy sex, I think they are just... DRRRROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL... yep, very good, very wonderful, very nice... sexy, hot, lovely, spectacular, yummy, fantastic.. etc. etc. *hearts everywhere*
-Vashley
hehehe...
well by all means let me know what they say...
hugs
xof